If you think that being good at sex is a man's job, you're mistaken.
Below is Romance's advice for avoiding the most common fifteen
mistakes women make in bed.
Below is Romance's advice for avoiding the most common fifteen
mistakes women make in bed.
- Reading Cosmo like it's the sex bible-
Men and women both make this big mistake. The writers for Cosmopolitan
have their moments, but as a whole, they are incredibly unreliable
sources. Some things they suggest are absolutely absurd and will surely
have the opposite effect they claim. From a man: "Do not believe what
"Cosmo" tells you. I read it once and it was instructing women to give
what I can only describe as a Chinese burn to their boyfriend's
[penis]" (from itshiphop.com). - Insecurities
- Another rule that goes for both men and women is that the presence of
insecurities makes a person undesirable to others. Confidence in and
out of the bedroom is the sexiest thing anyone can portray. Just
because women pick men apart constantly (I can say that because I admit
I do it), doesn't mean they do it back. Almost all men absolutely love
the female form, in varying shapes and sizes, and cannot see the
imperfections we see. - Lie like a lump on a log - Be active
in your sex life and your quest for orgasm. Discover what you like and
teach him how to please you. Sex is great fun, if you let it be. Sex
doesn't always have to be a workout, though. Slow, relaxing lovemaking
definitely has its place. - Thinking men have erogenous zones -
There's only one, ladies, and it's not hard to find. A few men enjoy
pre-sex fun with other parts of their bodies, and some would like you
to venture from it for short bits or as an addition to direct
stimulation, but rarely by itself. In fact, it may be an indicator that
your guy has some sex issues if he's pushing you to try a lot of
craziness in the bedroom. Sometimes men who watch too much porn find
themselves trying to play it out with their lovers (and women wonder
why they feel inadequate)! - Being self-critical - It sure is
difficult for women to take a compliment sometimes, especially if you
don't agree with them. Try with all your might to accept his attention
and compliments gracefully as often as possible! - Faking orgasms - Never, never, NEVER
fake it! If it is because you'd just like to get it over with, get out
of bed and don't get back in until you really want to. If you are
enjoying the sex and would like to get out from under the pressure to
climax, talk to your guy and let him know (might be a buzz kill during
sex, but certainly at another time). If you want one, then make the
effort to get one. If he's doing something that is stopping you from
orgasming, let him know! If you feel incapable of reaching orgasm and
wish to do so, do some research on anorgasmia and work it out. - Assuming that men will be "up" for it at the drop of a hat anytime, anywhere -
News to me, but apparently, men don't get hard with every passing
breeze. Emotions, insecurities, worries, or tiredness can make the
grand stand-up take some time. They aren't much different than women in
this way, only a woman's process of arousal isn't as visible. - Forgetting how visual men are -
Almost all men go crazy at the sensual sights. They never get sick of
seeing a naked woman, a woman in lingerie, a woman posed seductively, a
woman in the shower, a woman in a bathing suit, a woman anywhere… you
get the idea. Just like we want them to recognize our feminine desires,
it is important for guys to have their eye candy as well. - Giving him the silent treatment - If
he makes you hot, let him know it. You don't have to talk dirty, but
make some noise. Let him hear how much you are enjoying yourself. Your
sex will get more satisfying when you let him know that he's pleasing
you. - Expecting him to think like a woman -
While your man really wants to please you and is likely to do whatever
he can to make things great for you, it might not come naturally to
him. It might never cross his mind to choose his bedding with you in
mind, trim up his back hair, or do the things you like during sex.
Again, this is about communicating with your lover. Not many people,
men or women, are born great lovers. Everyone learns from somewhere,
why not have them learn from you? - Not initiating sex - Yet another two
way street. Your guy enjoys being pursued as much as you do. It is the
glue that holds an intimate relationship together. Neglecting your job
to initiate sexual contact will send your lover the message that you
aren't interested in it at all. Both partners have got to keep their
spoons in the pot. - Losing your sexuality after becoming a mother
- Men complain about this all the time and it's often not deserved.
What is reality, though, is that women sometimes do get too tired to
make their sex lives a priority, too caught up in being a new mother to
notice their husband romantically, and too self-critical to be sexy
with their guys. You've got to remember that the beginning of a perfect
family is the perfect couple. You can't put that relationship on the
back burner for long before it burns up. - Letting go of your female allure - Your
guy wants to keep all the passion alive in your relationship as much as
you do, but if he can't see any of the female sweetness that got him
hot for you in the first place, what is he supposed to cling to? The
memory of your allure? The friendship that has developed out of your
relationship? If you know what it is like to end up with half the guy
you fell in love with, make sure you don't do that to the man you love. - Getting your feelings hurt when he doesn't want to cuddle -
It's no joke that at orgasm, there are chemicals released in a man's
body that makes him want to roll over and go to sleep. Sometimes, the
feeling is so intense that cuddling (while still hot and breathing
heavy from his performance) with you feels like torture. Give him a
break when he needs to rest. Other times (or other men… and I have
proof) will be ready to talk and kiss or even get up and do the dishes! - Insisting on being the dominant partner all of the time
- Love and sex are about exploring each other and fulfilling each
other's desires. Taking control of a sexual experience can be the
perfect way of letting your partner know what feels good to you, but
you've got to hand over the reigns sometimes as well. His sense of self
as a man depends on it, and a good lover is one who realizes their
partner's needs and desires.
Wed Aug 25, 2010 12:55 am by HarmonyLev
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